As it’s World Mental Health Day today, it seems like the best time for me to talk about my anxiety around running.
At least, it used to be just around running.
Earlier this year, I found that the sort of anxiety I used to have on start lines – you know, the fidgeting, wondering if I had time to make it to the toilet (AGAIN), generally being so tense I could have snapped, occasionally crying – had started to worm its way in to my every day life. I would go for a walk at lunch only to find that I would suddenly have to rush to the toilet (apologies to the person working in Paperchase who I literally ran away from as she tried to serve me). I started having panic attacks on the train which resulted in my holding up an entire 8-carriage to London. As someone who has to commute by train every day, the mere thought of simply getting to work would fill me with dread and I stopped wanting to leave the house.
I no longer felt like me.
I don’t really know what triggered this all. At the start of the year I had some stressful things going on and it’s possible that they just accumulated to breaking point, and I’ve always carried stress in my gut. But what I was certain of was that this situation couldn’t continue. I’m nothing if not proactive, so back in March I had some tests done at the doctors which all came back clear, and so reasoning that the problem was more mental than physical, I booked an appointment to see Dan Regan, who as well as being a fellow runner, is also a hypnotherapist. A friend had had a really positive experience with him and couldn’t recommend him enough, and his testimonial page was full of faces that I recognised from the sports scene in Ely. Thankfully Dan does free consultations so there was no massive upfront commitment, but as soon as we’d had that initial meeting I knew I wanted to work with him.
When it comes to picking a therapist of any kind, you have to be comfortable with them, and Dan and I got on immediately. Plus having shared knowledge of pre-race anxiety meant that he knew exactly where I was coming from. Over the course of 6 sessions he taught me coping mechanisms (some worked for me, some didn’t), gave me audio recordings to use at home and of course we had the hour long session to talk things through and do some hypnotherapy.
Smiling when running!
And you know what? It really worked wonders for me. Don’t get me wrong, IBS is still a part of my life (I wasn’t expecting Dan to cure that!) and I still have situations that make me feel uncomfortable, but – bar the odd wobble – the sheer panic I used to feel in that situation has gone. Instead I focus on my breathing, or tense the muscles in my legs or play word association games in my head. Even when it comes to races, even though I still get nervous (don’t we all, to some extent?), I don’t let it overwhelm me to the point of terror. If my stomach decides it’s not going to play ball I just accept it, and refuse to let myself despair over it. Instead, I focus on what I’m about to do and make sure I’m near those people who know what I’m dealing with and know how to help me through it.
And that’s where I need to say some thank yous. As well as to Dan, I need to thank my ever patient husband who went out of his way to try and minimise stressful situations for me, to Justin for being an epic sounding board on the way to races and to Pete who would try and distract me with games on the train and who was the one who purposefully blocked the train doors with my bike so that I wouldn’t get stuck and find myself going all the way to London.
Seriously Pete – who knew giraffes weighed that much?!
I still consider my anxiety around my stomach issues to be a work in progress, but I have Dan’s audios to hand, an amazing support network around me and I’ve recently been enjoying pacing other people rather than putting myself under pressure to run super quickly. That’ll come back with time though. For now, it’s enough for me to be finishing a run with a massive smile on my face.
If you’re struggling with your mental health, you can find a number of resources available here.
7 thoughts on “When the Anxious Athlete Takes Over”
Thank you for sharing and being so open Lauren! I’m so glad you were able to find something to help you. I’ve been interested in hypnotherapy for a while. Perhaps you could share more about what that’s like?
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So honest and inspiring Lauren, as well as being a treat to read! Dan’s family friend and I’m so glad you had such a good experience and you feel better able to cope with things! Thank you for sharing Lauren, I found this really interesting and insightful!
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*Dan is a family friend 😂
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Hadn’t realised it had become such a problem for you because I think others are exactly the same as me which is of course not the case . Think I am probably very much my own person and have had to work through a large problems myself I do my best to just get on with it and not let too many things get to me. I also have a safety device which blows quite readily but is soon forgotten. Not the best for everyone but suits me.
Lots of love Dad.
I know you to be an amazing runner and an inspiration both in your running and in your proactive and caring manner. I note your recent achievements lobbying parliament to get the train time tabling changed for the good of all. Thank you for sharing your story and good luck girlrunninglate x
I love how honest this is! I cant wait to read more from you! Xx